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I think I love my wife ?

“Guys will cheat”.

Quickly, the typical Yoruba-superstitious-religious-Nigerian in me kicks in with a resounding-

“My own husband will not cheat; I reject it in Jesus Name”

(Of course, I remember to include the finger snapping over the head movement”.

My ‘enemy’ returns with a smirk and another-

“Better prepare yourself for it”

I mumble something like ‘I won’t even bother’ which translates to something in between ‘shut-up’ or ‘I’m ignoring you’.

I saw I think I love my wife sometime in May or so and I loved it. The fact that critics weren’t falling over themselves, grading it an A+ confirms my suspicion that most Americans are ignorant. Chris Rock rocks- funny, witty rocks. Although, I won’t let my little niece see it- too much profanity-but it did the comic-job. The story is about the seven-year hitch and how Chris Rock manages not to actually cheat on his wife with super-hot-old friend Kerry Washington. (Sorry, if I’ve ruined the movie for those who still want to see it) but the point is at least Chris grasps the point that it is not right to cheat- which is a huge relief from the general “Guys cheat”.

Most of 20^th century Nigeria with all religiosity and church going assume that it’s okay for the guy to cheat while the thought of the woman doing the same thing is as outrageous as Bush having a sex change. Everyone accuses me of having an ‘oyinbo’ mind for expecting that marriage is more than a little convenient part of our lives, along with getting Saturday manicure or trip at the barbershop.

After all, Sarah (Abraham’s Sarah- Abraham-Jewish father of all nations; Christian epitome of faith) actually ‘offered’ her female slave to Mr Abraham for the purpose of an heir to the Abraham lineage. Since she insisted, Abraham loved his wife and was willing to go through the hassles of procreation- you know the rest: the slave Hagar has Ishmael, turns around to mock Sarah, who latter on has Isaac. Apparently, Mother Sarah recognised a ‘difference between fidelity and loyalty’.

I don’t. I really don’t.

So I need help. Some way to sort this out.

Am I weird for thinking my husband will never cheat?

 P.S: 

Of course, women cheat too- I realised that a bit late but women don’t think it’s normal for them to cheat. Usually, a woman cheats because she’s looking for something else- most of the time, an emotional need she wants to fill. Men, on the other hand cheat because they think they have to; like an affirmation of their sexuality or availability. They look to cheat. Check- Brad Pitt and Jennifer (ok, well I guess… Jolie or Jennifer- Jolie or Jennifer) but Eric Benet on Halle ? (OMG, what on earth is better than super-everything Halle?)

Is it like a fling thing? I really don’t understand. Is it really possible to be ‘in’ love with someone and sleep with someone else?