My father-in-law passed away on Friday 28th of September, 2007 and it has been deep reflection for me ever since then on the purpose of life. This is the man that barely handed me her daughter some few years ago to support and be my best friend before he died. I strongly believe that peoples death become meaningless if their dreams are not realized; this kind of thinking immediately placed me on the spot for deeper reflection of my every day activities. Why am I on this earth? When would I be happy to prepare to give up the ghost since it is inevitable? What would I have accomplished to give me the necessary peace to look at death in the face?
The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose; a life where every decision you make is based on a purpose. Whats the essence of going to work? Whats the essence of investing? Whats the essence of starting a business? When all these questions are answered without a hint of self delusion, you would come to realize that you have been chasing after the wind (well, I am personalizing it). You start a journey without an end in view; this is the approach to most of our lives.
I asked a friend of mine that worked in the bank if she was sure she would make heaven. She said with all alacrity and confidence that she was too sure she would end up in heaven. Then my curiosity got the better of me and I asked her why she was sure? She told me about living right and her attendance to church then she ended with her relationship to God. Since I did not hear anything on purpose; I pressed on with my enquiries. “Entry into heaven is a judgement affair?” She said yes. “During entrance, you would definitely be questioned?” She said yes again with some impatience wondering where my question is leading to. ” What would the question be?” She actually paused for a while and reflected on my question; then she unwittingly said she did not really know but she was sure of going to heaven.
“How can one be sure of passing an exam without knowing the likely question?” She looked at me and said “If I was scared of not making heaven, I should not corrupt her mindset”. I did not reply her because I knew she needed to know some things which 95% of Christians dont know (My assertion is based on the action of Christians though not on their words). Its not the observation of rules but fulfilment of purpose that gives you an assurance of making heaven (if heaven is a goal post). Then the question of which purpose is right and which one is not would definitely come to play.
Before I venture on ways to understand your purpose, I would like to conclude on my interaction with my dear Banker. “It is logical to say there is a reason why you are on this earth” She affirmed my statement with a “yes”. “Do you believe that the reason you are on this earth is to increase the bottom line of your company and making the owners of the company very rich?” She quickly objected to that line of reasoning and said shakingly that she was good at her job then she said something that almost hit the home run “The thing I love to do cannot generate the amount of money to make me live as comfortable as I want to”
This has always been the issue and her final submission to the fact that she had an inner prompting but the challenge of finance has deterred her gives an indication to the fact that everyone subconsciously or consciously knows their purpose on this earth. If most people were giving some certain amount of finance, they would not wake up every morning and run to their present office (they would have to be sure this certain amount would come constantly). This always confirm my assertion that 90% of the salaried workforce are motivated by money though 90% of this 90% denies it.
I was at IEEE, Lasu Chapter recently and I was interviewed and asked why I work where I work and I gave them an answer that kept the hall quiet. “I work for XYZ company because of money, leverage and networking” This kind of answer should not be given by a youth motivator but I believe the truth sets free and expands their exiting thought life. I am sure the youths were expecting me to say things like I love for my job, the environment, etc.
Well, lets move to the cream of the subject, the best way to know your purpose is to identify your talent (what you can easily do that others find difficult to do). When you identify your talents, you can now understand what you are suppose to be doing on this earth. I am sure someone would be thinking how limiting my statement is but my statement sums the whole buhaha about purpose and what one is suppose to be doing on this earth. If you are good at atheletics specifically sprinting; you should be sprinting and expanding your talent in this area. Happiness is always the sympton of exploring your talent. Let me explain where the whole heaven thingy came from;
Jesus was using the parable to explain the Kingdom of God and he stressed on a man that gave three different individuals different talents before he departed on a journey. When he came back from the journey, he demanded the talents but only two of them were able to increase their talents while the other one was clueless on what the man wanted from them. None of the three were given instructions on what to do with their talents but the guy that did nothing was termed “Wicked”. This is why I cringe when people think by living right they would become heaven bound. Please, stay on this site becasue this is the fulcrum that leads to an ongoing series called the Visionay Man on DIpo Tepede.POeT. Watch Out!Â
@ Mr & Mrs Dipo Tepede
I did not make a comment on this post earlier because I took time to flash back on the
theme of this thread…..let me first of all express my condolences to both of you and say that whatever vacuum that has been left by the departure will surely be filled by God.
Meanwhile, on the theme of purpose – the crux of the matter here is that the whole essense of our existence depends on this, without it we can never be fulfilled and the funny thing is that each of us have our specific n peculiar purpose to be accomplished here on planet earth.
The discovery of this is the starting point to true fulfilment, but it takes wisdom of the Most High to truly work with it – knowledge is knowing what to do (purpose in this case) while wisdom is applying that knowledge to do it (fulfilment of the purpose). The question then arises that how do I as an individual discover the purpose and get the wisdom to accomplish it?
The answer is in Funmilayo’s comment – You need to ‘soak’ yourself as she puts it in the presence of God ….. in short forget yourself in His presence – where would we rather love to be anyway. He knows the end from the beginning and the manual to our life is right there with Him – If only only we can take some time off our ‘hustling n burstling’ ….we surely fulfil purpose.
Really insightful piece Dipo …. a nice rebranding of Dipo Tepede.POET I will say 🙂
@Dipo,
Sincere condolences, may God grant you and the entire family the fortitude to bear the loss.
This write-up is making me to seat, think and assess my journey so far. I am not sure what i’d come up with, but i sure pray that i have a good story to tell at the end. hnnnmmmmn, na wa o, what is my purpose……?
Hello Dipo my sincere condonlences.
Great piece as usual. In as much as you are damn right about the essence of purpose, i wish to drop a word of caution. I believe that purpose (or talent) can be abused and that is the reason some, if not most, celebraties that rode on the back of their talents to stardom ended up making a mess of themselves.Needless to mention names both here in Nigeria and abroad. This is where living right (or whatever term we use for it) comes in and that is CHARACTER.It forms the bedrock for lasting success both in life and eternity.
Exploring your talents alone without regards for your way or life, in itslef, does not guarantee eternity in heaven.
Keep up the good work brother!
all condolences to dipo and his wife..may God grant you the fortitude to bear the irrepairable loss….
I would like to keep in touch with these series. This is great work from you Dipo, keep it up.
@pureseed-
obvious printer’s devil. He meant Setember.
DIPO…….28TH OCTOBER 2007 NEVER REACH..ARE YOU FORCASTING THE PASSING OUT OGF YOUR FATHER IN LAW????????????????? hABA
that was-
“wetin loya do sef”
If you cough loudly, folks go like;”The typical lawyer”
o ga gan
@Dipo..
wetin loya de sef… ?
His kingdom= God’s kingdom. Fellowship with Him
…so sorry to hear about Mercy’s dad.
May his soul rest in peace.
Thanks very much for this post.
I have been thinking deeply about purpose.
I was also thinking that the fact that am doing very well in a
particular area those not make that my purpose.
I have concluded that Life is all about Purpose and the key
to fulfillment and prosperity is understanding and carring out
your purpose.
May God give us the grace to live a purpose driven life.
Amen.
Regards,
http://www.freelancez.blogspot.com
You make better decision when you soak yourself in the presence of your creator.
The typical lawyer in you is manifesting….
Please, kindly answer the question.
@sweets,
God’s o.
that simple.
I know first hand that i make better decisions when i actually have and enjoy a relationship with GOd.
that simple.
I’m not preaching dogma, I’m talking about realities.
@ Funmilay
Thank you.
You have reminded me of the lady I mentioned in my write-up.
Now, tell me what you understand by His Kingdom?
@Dipo,
We all learn everyday, we strive to trace out our paths.
I agree with you, mostly.
But I cant help knowing that what matters most is His Kingdom.
FInd it and purpose often comes.
I also know that it’s hard to sell Christ if you’re not showing off His glory in the first place.
‘m sorry again bout your father-in-law.